Hold the mother, not the baby.⁣
Because the baby’s being taken care of—⁣
fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—⁣
by not only the mother,⁣
but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.⁣
But the mother,⁣
may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,⁣
may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,⁣
may feel more like a mess than a mother,⁣
may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,⁣
may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, “she’s not good enough,”⁣
and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.⁣
And the mother’s that baby’s whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn’t disappear into that postpartum fog.⁣
So, hold the mother, not the baby.⁣
A mother agrees that her baby matters more.⁣
But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,⁣
in the background, making it all happen:⁣
feeding her baby at all hours,⁣
snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,⁣
and being that baby’s everything.⁣
So, it’s the mother who needs your love.⁣
And a mother will remember who held her up.⁣
So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”⁣
try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”⁣
Because the mother needs to be held more.⁣

📸: This Mama Doodles
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